Friday, June 7, 2013

A Lesson Learned From A Frenemy

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“He’s cheating Tolani, I am telling you” Seke screams.

“What? No oh Bolaji won’t do that to me.” I say while trying to assure myself also that my husband of less than two years could not possibly be cheating on me.

“Answer me now, what time does he come home?”

I don’t even know why she’s screaming. I can hardly get my thoughts together.

I'm in Texas and Everything Really is Big

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There's this joke that I'm sure a lot of you have heard various versions of it. I can't remember any version completely but suffice to say, one of the lines say, in Texas, everything is big. This is my first time in Texas, and I can now say, that part of the joke is totally true.

Magazine Covers - Omowunmi Akinnifesi on YNaija!

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She looks good, and all those fat books on a magazine cover? Me likey too much!

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Throwback Thursday - Solange Knowles for Brooklyn Magazine

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Solange Knowles was on the cover of the Summer 2013 issue of Brooklyn Magazine where she talks about her life, family and career. In the photoshoot accompanying the cover, she poses with other friends and models. I love the retro feel and styling of the picture and it is showcased for #tbt.

Can a Nigerian Man be a House Husband?

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I have to confess that even I don't expect the first answer from a man when asked this question to be a yes. But in the spirit of freedom of choice for both women AND men, I understand that all a man who wants to be a househusband has to do is find a wife who will accept him just like that. Being a fan of Wife Swap, I can testify to having seen many real life examples of what a house husband looks like. And it can work.

Cue your random man on a Lagos street and the question, can you be a househusband? Most say no. Some back pedal and state that if they lose their job and the wife is still earning a lot, they will partner with her and work out a way to manage the home. A lot are adamant. Either their religion or Nigerian culture forbids such a thing, they say. Only one man wouldn't really mind if that is the curve life throws at him. One is already a part time house husband by the nature of his job.

In my opinion, I think from their answers, that if the men are able to at least earn a little, and have their egos massaged as the head of their home by their higher earning wife, I think if these two conditions are met, I think a lot of the men may be more amenable to working from home and helping out with chores.

From what I hear, this may be happening even more than we think already.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Women - Stop Suffering in Silence and Love Yourself!

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By Souraya Christine

Ok ladies, I am here to give it to you straight. I’m singling you out from the men, because it seems that we are the ones who have the greatest problem with two major issues; one, suffering in silence and two, not loving ourselves first. Hopefully, we can change this pattern of thinking right here, right now.

Love's Pain - Part 1

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“I’ll never let you go, oh noooo,” sings Faith Evans, “Every day I thank the Lord for you, I feel so blessed”. I remember vividly that was the song Lolu and I danced to on our wedding day. “I wished upon a star and it came true” I sing as tears start to find their way down my face. How could I possibly hurt the man who made all my dreams come true? If I chose to confess, I would have peace of mind but my marriage would be shattered. We were happy, we WERE happy, WE WERE HAPPY, I think as the thoughts are now stained by a reminder of my sins and lies.

Did Oral Sex Really Give Michael Douglas Cancer?

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One of the most controversial at the same time as viral - no pun intended - posts on this site remain the ones about whether Nigerian men give oral sex, and what the bible says about oral sex between married couples. I've received emails, tweets, DMs and messages on Facebook calling me out, or asking me to carry on, lol. I have to say the first group are louder.

3 Tips To Make it Easier For A Woman To Approach A Man

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Summer is right around the corner so there’s no better time to let loose and approach that handsome man you’ve been eying from across the room. For some women, this task may bring extreme anxiety but there’s no need to worry. Men are actually easier to be approached then many women give them credit for.

Night Out At The Chime For Change Concert

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Salma Hayek, Frida Ganinni and Beyonce - The Founders

Chime for Change is a non-profit which uses crowd-sourcing funds to help empower women and girls through education, health and justice. It is definitely something I support and it's great to know the concert went very well.