Thursday, March 21, 2013

Natural Indian or Peruvian Hair Extensions Vs Synthetic?

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Before I go on, let me state categorically that I do NOT believe in possessed hair extensions, natural or synthetic. Even before natural Indian hair extensions became popular in the Nigerian market, such stories as the one below have always made the rounds in Christian and secular circles. I guess they are meant to discourage those who some pastor or spiritual types think want to look "better than God made them". It may also be a way of staking authority over women's bodies, minds and actions.

A contact on Facebook tagged me in the above ad for their hair extension business, and before long, they had to qualify it with this quote. - "Mide's Mane is not Brazilian/Indian/Peruvian. It is luxury virgin hair designed specifically under the brand name." I'm guessing they got some questions and negative comments on their initial pictures. If you haven't heard or read about how this distinction between natural and synthetic extensions might be necessary, and why synthetic may be preferable, read Rachel Edjeren's story.

I think it's good that Rachel followed her spirit, but trying to cause mass hysteria, or foisting her fears and insecurities on others is another thing altogether. I wear my hair unrelaxed but that does not rule out using extensions, and even then, I will not try to use my own justifications for cutting my hair to shoe horn or scare other women into doing the same.

What do you guys think?

When The Sex Predator is Inside Your Own Home

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A crime news report from the Punch newspaper has got me almost weeping this early morning. Sex predators abound, but it is so heart breaking when they target children, it becomes monstrous when such a predator uses the cover of his home to molest his daughters and grand daughter. In a country like Nigeria where such cases are part of what "we do not talk about," effectively shutting up the victims from reporting the crime, or getting help through counselling and therapy, it is especially heinous!

But beyond lamenting such cases as we often read about in the papers and blogs, I want to point out the role the adult woman in such a situation has to play. In this story, I was baffled by the statement from the wife of the accused pedophile. Let us forget for a moment that the extended family is also complicit in this dastardly act, do you think the wife did all she could? Her story...

“I am a caterer. In 2006 I went to Abuja for a catering job where I spent five days. But at about 1am, my first daughter, who was about 17-years-old at the time, called me on the phone crying that her father raped her that night.

“When I returned, I confronted him but he beat me up and he continued to molest our daughter and each time I confronted him, it earned me a beating. I had no choice but to leave him when I got fed up with seeing him molesting our daughter and later sleeping with me. I took my six children and we relocated.”

She said in 2011, Sylvester’s family settled their differences and urged the couple to reconcile for the sake of the children. She said her husband swore never to touch any of his daughters again and she reluctantly returned to her husband’s house.

The Long Awaited Wedding Night by TJ Benson

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144…That was the number of ceiling boards in Martin’s room. He had spent the last 2041 seconds counting the 144 asbestos ceiling boards of his elegantly furnished bedroom. While his newly wedded wife lay beside him seemingly a thousand miles away…

His friends had warned him, his elder brother and even his father had hinted something to that effect- these things didn’t always turnout right not in this era anyway. But he had made a solemn promise with Onome when they were 16 to wait until after marriage.

His father was initially proud of him. Such discipline, his father said, was what made a man a man. But after he graduated from the polytechnic and got a job, his father began to worry if his son was really a man. Weren’t they engaged to be married? Hadn’t they been faithful to each other for the past 10 years? Then what was the problem? The poking and prodding ad been relayed through his mother and eventually ended up in uncomfortable confrontations from his father. He solved the problem by moving out of their home.

Then there was the issue of peer pressure. Some of his acquaintances had been disgusted at what they believed to be his childish decision. “What would I be doing with a hot pastor’s daughter for 10years!” they cried. She had not been spared either. Her fellow female choir members had warned, “life is not a fairytale and you don’t even know whether he is impotent sef.” Sometimes, they would exchange the stories and laugh off the tension and even find more strength in themselves in the process.

How to Make Fried Rice With Peas and Sausages

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For variety, each time I make fried rice, the ingredients and the method of preparation differs. On this occasion, I used sliced sausages as the meat accompaniment, and peas for the vegetable.

3 cups of long-grain rice
2 ladles vegetable oil
1 pack of frozen peas
Defrosted Sausages - Diced
4 small fresh tomatoes, chopped
1 medium size onion, chopped
2 Teaspoon of dry pepper
4 Knorr Chicken cubes
Salt and Spices to Taste



1. Set 5 cups of water to boil, or enough to cover your rice twice.
2. When it boils, pour the rice in and allow to boil again.
3. Reduce heat and simmer for 10 mins.
4. Remove from heat and pour the rice into a colander with small sized holes.
5. Turn the rice into a container filled with cold water, and sieve again.
6. Repeat this, rubbing the rice lightly between your fingers until it feels starch-free.

The Steak and Blow Job Day - Men's Answer to Valentine's Day

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I came across the idea of the Steak and Blow Job day in the days running up to Valentine's day but completely forgot about it till I came across this article on Blogher. Apparently, some feminists are not happy about the concept of such a day but I'm not even going to debate that because hey, that would be sexist.

After all, what is good for the goose should be good for the gander too, right? If Valentine's day has been made out to be a de facto gift giving get-what-you-want day for women, men should get what they want too. This is the blurb on the official website, don't click if you're at work or sensitive.

Men work very hard to satisfy their lovers on Valentine’s Day, and given their ebullient dedication, Steak and Blowjob Day is a joyous opportunity to repay the favor. [...] March 14th is “Steak and Blowjob Day.” Simple, effective and self-explanatory; it allows the ladies to demonstrate their reciprocal appreciation. No cards, no flowers, no special nights on-the-town; the name explains it all: just a steak and BJ. That’s it.

I could say maybe not all men want steaks and/or BJ, but what's the point? On this topic, I'll go with the argument of "everyday should be valentine's day". In the same way, everyday should be steak and BJ day. Or whatever your man prefers, that is.

#ErectionKillers Trending all Day on Twitter [Jokes]

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So most of yesterday up till now, #erectionkillers hashtag has been trending on twitter, I almost used this picture on Sting's blog or this one on twitter for this blog, but after laughing I had to respect myself. Are Nigerian men suffering so much sex wahala that they have to bring it to Twitter? All those people talking are probably not getting any. But it's all fun and jokes I guess, like this very first one, Oga at the top has suffered. Let's laugh it off...

@iam_BuGsY: When you ask her if she's enjoying it and she says "Ask my oga at the top

@silentachiever_: When u re seriously doing it and she is busy reading a magazine

@demmyoracle: When u bout screwin and d church u share same fence wit, starts preaching "FORNICATION"...

@demmyoracle: U lift her skirt up & she has dreads sticking out her panties like a rasta

@TWEETORACLE: Stopping a dude when he’s abt to penetrate and asking him if he loves U

@realPUSSINESS: When she's givin u bj.. And u feel her teeth actually hurt ur dick.. Serious

See the whole thread below...