Sunday, August 11, 2013

Unconditional Love - Bride With Vitiligo Has Been Married Six Years With Kids!

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Nicole and Brandon Wylie are the couple I shared their wedding picture here, after it went viral on Facebook and blogs. Her vitiligo has since reversed a lot, and far from the picture being a new wedding picture, it was actually posted on their wedding anniversary.

They have recently spoken with one of my favorite site - Black and Married with Kids - about how the video went viral and their love story. Nicole notes that her skin was at it’s whitest during her wedding, probably because of the stress of wedding planning.  Enjoy their love story  and more recent pictures of their family below;

BMWK: Why do you feel it was important to share your story?

Nicole: I feel that, first off I have Vitiligo, it’s not contagious. There’s nothing that’s awful. My husband actually loves me. He didn’t marry me cause I was different or cause… There’s nothing wrong with me. If I can bless someone else to know that you can find love. You are still a person and capable of love. If you have Vitiligo or any other skin pigmentation or anything wrong with you. It does not make you unable to find love.

BMWK: Why do you think people were so curious or reacted the way they did?

Nicole: Anything that’s different makes a stir up. When people don’t know they’re curious. Most people who have Vitiligo cover themselves up with Dermablend or other makeup. I choose not to. I’ve had Vitiligo since I was 5 years old. I have great parents who I contribute that to. They taught me, I’m not my skin, I’m Nicole. My skin doesn’t define who I am. They’ve always been great. When we were getting married, that was the big taboo. Everyone wanted to know was I going to walk down the isle covered up cause it was my wedding day. My mom asked me, she’s the one who’s always made me feel the most beautiful in the world, she was just curious if I was going to cover it up. It made me second guess it. So I came to Brandon and asked what he thought. Should I? He said, no, un unh. He was real adamant like why would you do that. Brandon doesn’t like makeup. He’s one for natural beauty.  When his reaction was like that, it was confirmation. I chose not to (cover it) on my wedding.

BMWK: That beautiful photo is confirmation you made the right choice.

Nicole: Yes ma’am.

Brandon: Oh yeah, she fine! She fine!

BMWK: Okay, now let’s get to the good part. How did you meet?

Nicole: You tell the story and I’ll chime in with the good stuff.

Brandon: Coincidently, I was at Morehouse as a freshman the same year she was at Clark Atlanta as a freshman.  We never met, never crossed paths. I’m from Connecticut, she’s from Jersey. We moved down here the same year in 95.

Just so you know. My mom introduced me to her high school boyfriend, when I was 14 and he was an older guy and he had Vitiligo. So I was 14 when I was introduced to a person who had the skin disorder. Of  course I was a kid, so I asked questions. He explained it was just a skin disorder, and your body stops producing melanin. I learned that and didn’t think of it again because I never saw anyone else who had it.

I moved down here 7 years later, we were both taking classes at a community college, here in Atlanta. I came to class on time, she came two weeks late. It’s a pre-calculus class, not an easy class. I sit in the furthest back row with a buddy of mine. There is a chair between us, there are empty chairs everywhere. Class probably occupied 28, there were probably 14 students in the class. Again, back row middle of the classroom, she walks in across the room to teacher who says oh nice of you to join us. Yeah, she stunted across the room, left foot in front of right foot. My buddy and I were already peeping out the females in the the class. I peeped at him and said to him “I got this one”. Remember, half of the room is empty. Teacher said find a seat ANYWHERE. She comes to the back row and sits right next to me.

Nicole: They were the cutest guys in the classroom.

Brandon: She sits to the right of me. I leaned over to the left and said “got her”. I’m an engineer at heart, calculus and pre-calculus came easy to me. She asked me to be her tutor. We both were dating (other people) at that time. She had a boyfriend at the time, I’d see her, some dialogue and a relationship built. Then she noticed my fashion sense. She complemented certain things, like,” I like those shoes”. One day she had the audacity to say “those are some nice shoes I’m thinking of getting my boyfriend some.” I said listen if you want that dude to dress like me and look like me why don’t you just ask to be with me. I thought, she’s probably feeling me. So, we had a take home quiz, and we agreed to take it together. Her boyfriend was dropping her off, he pulls up and asked if we minded taking the test at his barber shop. I said cool. I told my buddy I ‘m doing the lamest thing ever. My friend clowned me. We do the take home quiz, and as I’m leaving, she sits on his lap and thanks me. I walk out with my head down. I said I ain’t no sucker for love. A couple of days later, she’s on a payphone upset and arguing, saying “whatever, I’ll just catch the bus.” She slams the payphone down. I’m like “got her”. I say you need a ride home, I’ll take you home. She said she was fine. I kept bothering her. She agreed I could take her home and the conversation was really good.

Nicole: I had to cut that other one loose,

BMWK: Did you like Brandon before that point?

Nicole: I did. I liked his look when I walked into that classroom. I did have a man though.  We studied together, I would watch him play basketball. I would go and watch him sometimes. When you like someone else, everything the other person does makes you mad. It was the straw that broke the camels back when my boyfriend didn’t pick me up that day. After that, we broke up. I didn’t tell Brandon right away that I didn’t have a boyfriend.

BMWK: Why didn’t you tell him right away?

Nicole: He had been trying to take me out on a date. I liked him liking me. It was cute. Brandon is the sweetest. I thought, if I date him, is he going to change. I liked the attention. I could call him and we could sit on the phone for hours. I was putting up a front. After that it was a wrap, not too long after that we dated. We dated for 5 years.  Brandon told me a couple of things he wanted to do before he got married, buy a home, get a good job and finish college. He finished all 3 and then asked me to marry him.

BMWK: Brandon, how did you know she was the one?

Brandon: I don’t know if guys go through that “the one” thing. We do become suckers for love though. We do succumb to the writing on the wall. We feel the same way, but I never had that sense of she’s the one. I had confirmation throughout our relationship. My mom and Nikki are Scorpios. My sister loved her. My friends all like her personality and her approach to womanhood and being an individual. And her positive outlook on things. How strong of a person she is. They all know that Vitiligo is something some people just can’t deal with. The stares from adults out in public, the questions and comments from kids not knowing any better. We’ve traveled to the East and West Coast, Islands, people from all walks of life can walk right by her and not think twice about her skin. Then, there are people right here in the hood, in the city, show they have no couth, the pointing and the staring. It’s sometimes uncomfortable for me. But she just swings her hair and keeps walking. She leads a great life, and walks a good walk and is a great mom. She is “the one” so I did choose right. She’s cool people.

BMWK: Brandon, real quick, what happened with the relationship you were in. (Brandon pretends not to hear me).

Nicole: I captivated his heart!

BMWK: What do you both want us to know about you and your love story?

Brandon: Love is not perfect, love has no boundaries. Love forgives and love is real! I think my wife is going to be all over me tonight.

Nicole: He doesn’t hold his tongue. My story was basically just because you’re different doesn’t mean you can’t have a happily ever after. I hope and pray my confidence shines through my 3 little girls. Yes, they know mommy looks different but mommy held her head high and she walked tall and beautiful. So, I hope that it reflects on them as well.

This interview was such a cute one, and here on RML, we wish them the very best. Check out the complete interview with BMWK.


  1. This was amazing to read! Thanks Myne for posting it. I love their story, I love their love! God bless them.

  2. nice story...he is a good man. she is good also.

  3. Inspired. Hopeful. The world can be such a wonderful place if we can just see each other and love without boundaries.

  4. Their love is so fresh after so may years! Wow, I'm touched.

  5. So so cute.
    I pray their happiness lasts forever.

  6. aww!!!!...who says true love does not exist???...we just have to find the right person!!....adorable couple... and their kids are so cute!!!!

  7. Oh I just love them!

  8. I just developed goose bumps after reading this. So sweet and so touching! I love the message embedded in their story... Nobody is perfect, but love makes everything perfect. Wow!

  9. Beautiful story! This reminds me of my hubby and I. My vitiligo started shortly after we had married. I never had an actual wedding, but always planned to. Once the vitiligo started, I became nervous and just stopped planning the entire thing worrying about what people thought. Thank you so much for telling your story. It was a blessing to hear that and see you looking gorgeous and confident. I am going to pick up where I left off and have my dream wedding!

  10. What an incredible story, thank you so much for sharing! I hope, one day, I will find my soul mate and she will love me for what I am. I am very shy person that is why I have made an account at dating agency website I hope this is gonna help me.


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