Saturday, June 29, 2013

Only A Douchebag Wants Just Your Waist - On Iyanya and Yvonne Nelson

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What do you do when all a man you have fallen in love with wants from you is your waist? That was the dilemma the sender of one of the last Dear Myne posts found herself in. A lot of the comments told her to either tell the man off, or just move on. Some called any guy who wants a woman just for sex a douchebag, and I agree, somewhat.

That is, only to the extent that he deceives the woman into thinking he wants more with the pretense of a relationship. Where both the man and the woman go in knowing what they both want out of their relationship, and it mutually agreed as friends with benefits, then there should be no crying foul when things go pear-shaped and one person starts catching feelings.

Obviously, I may not be privy to all the details of Iyanya and Yvonne Nelson's relationship beyond what they put out to the public and I find myself leaning strongly towards Yvonne's side on this "he said, she said" saga. In an interview with BellaNaija recently, Yvonne Nelson answered the following questions about her relationship with Iyanya, about how he may have cheated on her, but definitely betrayed her expectations and broke her heart;

Sometime last year, you were quite emotional on Twitter when you supposedly broke up with a Nigerian music star. That incident has been shrouded with lots of cover-ups. Could you tell me what really happened?
I think it’s time my fans get to know the whole truth so I’m going to let it all out. I dated one person here, he’s in the industry. There were too many lies in the relationship. I found out a whole lot of things and I just felt like he took advantage of me.

Why did you go on Twitter to express your emotions?
I’m human, I’m not like a robot or anything. I just wanted the whole world to know what I was going through and I just wanted them to know that I was done with the relationship.

I had an interview with Iyanya shortly after that Twitter rant and his words were “She didn’t mention my name so I don’t know anything about it. I’ve never told anyone that I was dating anybody.” Aren’t we talking about the same person here?
He would say that because he was wrong. His team is also trying to protect his fan base and I don’t blame him for denying anything. It’s him and his career, that’s OK.

How long did the two of you date and how would you describe the relationship?
We dated for 7 to 8 months. We had something and I thought it was special, like he was a wonderful guy but it was all lies. He had other girls and other things he was doing. Aside the actress that was in the picture, there were a lot more. That is how bad it is. We were in a relationship and he lied throughout and he was able to do all those things because I wasn’t living in Nigeria. But aside from the distance, I feel if you’re a genuine person and you’re loyal, you would still not do that.

Most people only got to know that you and Iyanya were dating after you broke up. Were you deliberately being secretive about it?
I also don’t believe in putting my relationships in the faces of people. We both had our careers and were trying to protect our fan base and that’s cool. But if you go through my Instagram page, you’d see a couple of pictures of us together. I wasn’t shy about anything but he could not say he’s dating Yvonne Nelson because he had different people he was seeing so it was very hard for him to bring it out.

What did the experience teach you?
There are some things that you don’t get to learn in school; people can’t advice you, you won’t even listen. You just have to experience it to learn. I have no regrets that I went through it, it would have happened anyway. We are all human beings. We fall in love once in a while but if it doesn’t work out, that’s OK.

How do you feel about him now and what message would you like to pass on to him if you had the chance?
Iyanya is such an amazing person but I just feel he needs to be more honest and be a man of his words. It’s not good if he takes advantage of women. My Mum always says any man who takes advantage of women won’t end up well. It’s Karma, it’s going to come back to you. He should treat women fairly and he should be an honest person. It’s been a while though, I haven’t seen him. He is doing amazing things in his career and I wish him luck.

Well, instead of acting the gentleman, either wishing her luck too, or simply keeping quiet about the whole matter, Iyanya on a freestyling session in the video below, replied her thus;

Yvonne Nelson, I lost your medicine. She called that she's coming over and I ride her like a jangolova. All I want is your waist, no emotions, no tears, no letters, no love, no nothing....

... All I want is your waist, she ain't even know it. She brought emotions.

Call me biased, or making rash judgments without the complete picture, but I think he's a douchebag! Whether or not there were crossed wired before and during the relationship about what each party wanted, I think at this stage it's beyond crass to be singing about riding someone like a jangolova.

All I can say is, women shine your eyes for these kind of man. SMH.


  1. Douche bag of the highest order!

  2. This guy is so immature!

  3. But what of Yvonne Nelson that first gave the interview and name checked him? Kiss and Tell, anyone?

  4. As in he's rili immature. So pissed off. Wonder wat he wuz thinking wen he dissed her like dat. (Free styling my foot.) Ooops! He wuznt thinking. Oma Baby.

  5. He is an ass! Stupid boy, he never deserved her.

  6. Honestly Iyanya's reply was the most childish thing that I've read from a man this past year. It just goes to show that a man's age really does not determine their level of maturity. And in the end he tried to pass it off as a joke, how can somebody be so heartless? I think single girls should learn from this incident. That a man is all over you does not mean he cares deeply, for all you know,in Iyanya's words : all he wants is your waist.

  7. Honestly, is this really worth commenting? But commenting I must - cos I'm not surprised at all.

    First of all, I cant believe I voted for Inyanya to win the Project Fame ...Season 1 I think.

    Secondly is ladies like Yvonne Nelson should start learning to build their self worth and not mingle with rif rafs all in d name of fame. See how she sounded "hee is in d industry". Which yeye industry? Oya go on na. Shebi na industry? He has kuku said its ur waist he wants.

    In fact I honestly nearly had seizures when I first heard that song. I had lost track of Inyanya and his career moves and just came back from UK. I liked the Kukere beats but didnt even know it was his song. While stil grooving the Kukere jerjerly, this Waist song came out and I was oh so! pissed.

    I dont want to be judgmental but I blame the lady here. She should know that Inyanya being new to fame -just wants to catch his fun! I mean, he hasnt even travelled half of d places I've been to! Neither has he met a pint of the important people I've met! Now before Im misjudged as making it all about myself, yes - I am more relevant that the stupid douche bag - abi how una take spell that thing?

    Im so pissed Myne.
    And the Nelson chic na fine geh I been dey respect for movies. Why she come fall my hand na?

    Summary: Im mad at the two of them .
    Lesson: Life goes on.

    I have loads of clothes to iron for the week and my hair is still not ready for tomorrow. Thats my headache now! Mscheewwww...

  8. Yes he is a douchebag for that line in his rap and he is a douchebag for wanting a woman for her waist. A real man does not have to be promiscuous.
    That being said, why do ladies do this to themselves? I have seen women delude themselves about relationships. All the signs are there, yet you think he is your boo and loves you. Yvonne Nelson, a whole you dated a man for 7 months and was keeping it secret. At your age, you should know that a secret relationship with a man means that you are not the only lady in his life.

  9. I think people should look into people's backgrounds before dating them. Iyanya was a nobody before project fame and that is how I still see him

    1. Hmmmn, how many very successful people were somebody before their successes or fame? I don't think that's a nice point of view me dear. I used to think that way until I had a taste of the hard life when I graduated and became independent ('cos I wanted to make it on my own). Then, I learnt the hard way to give everybody a chance, irrespective of their background.


  10. not to judge someone outrightly based on their background, but to give them a very long spoon while trying to determine if they are genuine. Most people of humble background and character wont change irrespective of a newly attained status.
    Inyanya on the other hand, doesn't seem to be all that clean at heart, that's why he is already making songs like 'all he wants is their waist'.

    Bcos he just popped out into fame Yvonne decided to be involved with him in a secret relationship? Serves her right.

  11. Plss Nobody shld Blame Yvonne has happen if not all of us.u thnk ur havng smthng special wt smone along the line u found out its the greatest mistake u hv made. I'm soooo piss off wt that iyanya Guy,dnt evn kno wht to say to him.AS she said its KARMA he wl reap wht he sow.can u Imagine,he has the gut to Said he ride her lik Janglova,Gosh.


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