Saturday, September 29, 2012

Why Men Fall in Love at First Sight

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In the blog asking those that believed in love at first sight, most of the women did not believe in it. I got some comments from men both here and on Facebook and more of them do believe in love at first sight and had actually experienced it. The commenters who went on to elaborate what they thought of the idea tried to tease out the difference between love and lust and that seems to be the key to the difference in how men and women percieved love.

According to a singles study;

men are actually more likely than women to report falling for their partner after just one glance. 30% of men say they have fallen in love at first sight, while only 21% of women report the same. One reason for this is that lust and love are more immediately intertwined for men than they are for women. Men are visual creatures when it comes to sexual attraction, and they are programmed to have a strong, visceral response to mates they find attractive.

While women also search for attractive mates and physically respond to guys they find sexy, they do not always associate love and lust the same way that men do. Think of it this way: “Men fall in love at first sight, women fall in love at first insight.” In other words, in order to catch and keep a woman’s attention, a man needs more than just a fit body or a great smile. Women are also looking for a great sense of humor, kindness, and a charming personality….a six-pack is just a bonus!



  1. So true, Myne. Girls should only fall in love at first insight! And men...well, there's nothing we can do about them. Shay it's not their fault they only have one...eye! Have a great weekend:)

  2. I concur with u.. I think it should be why men fall in Lust @first sight :D
    And tanx fr stopping by my blog.#double :D

  3. “Men fall in love at first sight, women fall in love at first insight.” <---- Right There! That's it. That's all that needs to be said

  4. But I dont think its love sha...

    i think its more of infatuation and lust...

    cos we all know men are moved by what they see... we are all wired differently... men see women sense...

  5. iConcur - I don't think I have ever had love at first sight. I'm not sure I want to... For women it sounds like a recipe for clouded judgement.

    1. lol @ "recipe for clouded judgement"

  6. I totally believe in it cos I experienced it and have a few friend who did as well.
    It's not always physical(didn't notice her physical features) but there's some
    Hard connection at that moment.
    Doesn't mean the relationship will be smooth sailing or will go all the way
    But you can deny the true love felt at that first sight.

  7. I think I agree with this analysis. Men and sex are too wired together to permit pure love in many cases. All the same, I think that while love at first sight can happen, it is a shallow version of the kind of love that grows (or can grow) later in the relationship.

  8. True that. I met this guy online. Fell for his chats (insight) and he was halfway there. Then we exchanged pix and it seems he lost all chemistry.




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