Sunday, September 30, 2012

Emmys Red Carpet - Couple Love

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I watched the Emmys show live on TV last week but missed the red carpet. Just saw some pictures online and of course, the couples stood out to me. Some are married, dating, engaged, long-time couple, etc. Enjoy :)

One Direction - What Makes You Beautiful

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I'd heard their song on radio but saw them for the first time at the Olympics Closing. They remind me of the boy bands of when I was younger, and I can just imagine why they're so popular. I had a crush myself on Boyz II Men, Backstreet Boys, Nsync and Westlife. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

Saturday, September 29, 2012

Why Men Fall in Love at First Sight

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In the blog asking those that believed in love at first sight, most of the women did not believe in it. I got some comments from men both here and on Facebook and more of them do believe in love at first sight and had actually experienced it. The commenters who went on to elaborate what they thought of the idea tried to tease out the difference between love and lust and that seems to be the key to the difference in how men and women percieved love.

Friday, September 28, 2012

How to Remove the Blogger Word Verification

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I know I'm not the only one who finds this word verification frustrating, the picture above sparked this post. I've seen other posts and comments calling on bloggers to take it out. Especially with the the new word verification captcha system that has two words, and sometimes even numbers in a box! On a few occasions, it takes me 2 or 3 tries to get it right and I've even lost one or two comments because I couldn't get it right or I decided to move on and leave no comment.


Thursday, September 27, 2012

How To Show Nigerian Love - Elnathan John

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Elnathan John writes some amazing satire and when I read this, I just knew I has to share. Enjoy!
To quote D’Banj, “love is a beautiful thing”.

I have not met the man, but I know he meant Nigerian love, which is a species totally different from the heresy practised by oyibo people in the name of love. Our love is not of short-lived flowers and long meaningless walks in the park. As a person dedicated to your hustle, I have undertaken to provide wisdom that will protect you from falling into such heresies.

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Victims Speak Out - Eliminating Domestic Violence

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Sometimes I sigh in resignation when the issue of domestic violence comes up. Can there ever be a solution to this problem? When you think it is only illiterate men that are prone to DV, it smacks you in the face that some supposedly enlightened men are not immune. And then that some women bear it for so long? Losing babies, limbs, enduring pain! Well, these women have spoken out about their experiences, and hopefully, by generating some conversation with this documentary, we might be able to change minds and hearts.

Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?

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Supposedly, more men believe in and experience love at first sight than women. Let's see from your answers if this is in any way true. I do believe in love at first sight. Now, whether it survives and thrives is a different matter altogether. Who agrees with me?

New Bachelor, Modern Family, DWTS and more Fall TV

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Am I the only one looking forward to the new shows on TV? ABC recently announced their new Bachelor as Sean Lowes, and while he was not my favorite on Emily's season, I know I'll be watching come January. I'm also a big fan of Modern Family and Dancing with the Stars which has started off by sending Pamela Anderson Home.

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Remaining Celibate - For Young Singles and Couples

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This is one of the hot button topics for young people who either want to reach full potential in their study or career without sexual distraction, or who want to stick to their moral or religious ethics on the issue of pre-marital sex. In cases like in this post, when the reasons for celibacy are personal and well understood by the individual to benefit them, I am all for supporting and assisting to maintain that decision.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Mrs Somebody - Claiming Prince Charming by Faith

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In this movie I watched over the weekend, a woman is desperate to get married and after a motivational talk from her pastor, she proceeds to buy her wedding gown, in anticipation that her boyfriend, or any prince charming for that matter, will propose to her. This got me wondering if this woman, or real women like her, are being deceived by their pastors or if is this real faith? Do you believe buying a wedding gown will bring your wedding day closer, when there's no fiance in the picture?

On Marriage - Loving Your Man Anyway

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 [You may want to skip this post if you are finicky, some grossity (new word) ahead]

Now, I'm not one for dwelling on the differences between genders in terms of behavior, personality, or expected roles, but there are some ways I agree that men in general differ from women. There was this book I read in university, my then roommate was in the must-to-marry before I graduate mode, and I was in the read-everything-I-find mode. One point stuck with me, it was a chapter under the heading - You Marry A Man.

Sunday, September 23, 2012

It's Complicated - Hold Me Back (Nigeria) by Rick Ross

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Today's music video is not romance but more about the love-hate relationship most of us have for Nigeria, and for those outsiders who try to portray the country in any sort of realistic manner. From BBC documentaries, to comments by Oprah, a lot of us get riled up by this so-called "single story" of Nigeria. MI is one of the few rappers I listen to, and it was through him I found out about this video. I won't say I'm thrilled or overjoyed by it, but I never forget that indeed, up to 80% of Nigerians live that reality.

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Should Husbands Pay Wives For Managing The Home?

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This is one question that keeps cropping up again and again. I was single when I read something along the same lines after an American survey some years ago and now I'm reading it as a housewife. This time, the Union Women and Child Development Ministry in India is preparing a draft Bill that would entitle housewives a monthly income from their husbands. Of course, all the debaters are out again in force.

Friday, September 21, 2012

Does Size Really Matter?

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When size is mentioned in romance and relationship issues, it is usually about the man's penis, this time we're talking boobs. Tiwa Savage said in the video, "I don't really think it is the size, it's how you work it". That made me laugh cos that's what we say too concerning men and size. I am a B-cup and I confess that as a young tween, it was a source of envy for me as my peers' grew bigger and rounder with each passing year. Of course, there was also talk of what men wanted. I was dying inside.


Dear Diary, Sometimes it gets too Hard - Febby

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Sunday, the 1st of July. 9pm
Dear Diary,

Faking it is getting really tiring!!! You’d think I’d have perfected the act by now, right? Well I haven’t. Instead of getting easier it’s getting more difficult to do. Lifting my hands in church, simple right? Not for me it isn’t, not when I know that my life has not pleased God in a long while. I look around me while I’m in church; everyone seems to be lost in the Spirit (not that you can tell who is faking it, I hope it isn’t easy to tell because mine is so not genuine).

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Short Clip from an Interview on TV

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So Afronuts was able to make a small recording of the show yesterday. It is not much and not of the best quality but I was very happy to see it. Some friends on Twitter also saw it, and gave me a shout out. Thanks to you all, and thank God it's Friday.

Bimbo Akintola on Relationships, Marriage, Children

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Sometimes you see someone who has decided to make up her own mind on relationship issues, who is happy with where she is and not afraid to tell it. Bimbo Akintola seems to be one of those people. Irrespective of the general consensus that all single women need to find a man ASAP, Bimbo states clearly in the interview below that she is doing OK on her own for now.

And So What If Jesus Was Married?

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In the picture above is a papyrus that supposedly dates back to the fourth century and which may bear evidence that Jesus, the historical man, was married. I found out after hearing the ladies of the view debate on it that there has been a huge furor since the news broke on Tuesday. The person who was watching the show was like, "what blasphemy!" I personally didn't see it that way, I felt, "so what?"

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

See me on the Heart of the Matter TV Show Today

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While I was in Nigeria last summer, producers of the Heart of the Matter TV show invited me as a guest on one of the episodes on Season 5 of their show. Brand new episodes of the show are now airing on Thursdays, 9:30am on STV (also on channel 131 on DSTV) and today's episode features my appearence where I talk about my books, creativity, blogging and other aspects of social media.

Stuck in a Good Book Giveaway - Win A Love Rekindled

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Hello and welcome to my blog to all new visitors and subscribers. This giveaway is a chance to share a good book that anyone can get stuck in. I will be giving away my best selling book, A Love Rekindled. To enter, fill in the rafflecopter below. The winner will be announced in the rafflecopter and also receive an email within 72 hrs of the close of the giveaway. They have same amount of time to respond or another person will be selected. Goodluck!

America's Top Model Makeovers and Hair Extensions

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The makeover episode of America’s Top Model is always the most dramatic episode of the entire season. Models literally become more upset at the thought of having their hair cut or dyed than when they are actually eliminated. Makeovers are always discussed in the first couple episodes, which include discussions of the worst possible outcomes. When salon day arrives, there is certainly no shortage of tears, complaining, and hurtful gossip over another girl’s misfortune.


Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Stephanie Okereke Weds Linus Idahosa - Photos

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Nollywood actress, Stephanie Okereke, got married to Idahosa Linus last April in Paris, and I blogged about it back then under destination weddings. Well, the photographer has recently released some of the pictures on his blog. The venue was the Abbaye des Vaux de Cernay and everything looks great, especially the bride and groom. Enjoy!

What's the most stupid thing you did for Love?

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Ben Affleck has complained that 2003 was the worst year of his life. That was the year he dated JLo - as the younger, less successful man - appeared in her music video (Jenny From The Block), and made Gigli with her, a movie which got stinking reviews and also tanked at the box office. At least he can say that now, they have both moved on - married other people, with children, and still on top of their games.

Monday, September 17, 2012

Dear Myne - I am Celibate, How do I find True Love?

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Hi Myne, I am one of your readers. I am in my early 30s and still a virgin yes, you read me right and i live and work in 9ja. I am pretty and blessed with youthful looks and most people never believe i am older than 26. Now the issue is, it has been a bit challenging for me to have a proper relationship cos most of the guys i meet want sex.

Sunday, September 16, 2012

Sunday Fun - How well can you type your name?

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The typing game
1. Type your name/a name
2. Type the name with both eyes closed
3. Type the name with eyes closed and one finger.

Have fun and enjoy the rest of your Sunday. See you soon.

Toni Braxton - How Many Ways : Music Video Romance

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How much sweet goodness is there is a pack of Ghirardelli chocolate caramel squares? That's how many ways. And then add a drizzle of warm honey. Dedicated to my one and only. I love you.

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Kate Middleton Remains Gracious For Jubilee Tour

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There has been a lot of frenzy over some pictures of Kate Middleton, and her husband Prince William, but they are continuing with their tour of the Far East. I wished more people will focus on what is more important, and maybe the paparazzi will get the message that we don't need them to invade people's privacy in order to titillate us. What was there to see? A young woman enjoying some time off before going on to face a packed schedule of work? SMH...


Friday, September 14, 2012

More Twitter Advice on Marriage and Relationships

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"The rate at which marriages/relationships collapse now is assuming a social symbol status in our society." Ruggedman, a musician in Nigeria started his marriage tips on Twitter this way, and makes me believe this is going to become a trend. I think he means social status symbol, and if that is so, would answer the question in my IK'sTipsonGettingAMan post. I think Ruggedman nails it that it is not getting married that is the problem, but having a marriage that works.

Asaba, Akwa-Ocha, Nsala - Between Lynxxx and I

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For music video romance last week, I selected Lynxxx's Fine Lady video, and threw out a small challenge. I put up that picture above as the clue and the correct answer came in with the first few comments. Since I promised to share some thing on this blog if that happened, this is me sticking to my word. I may not be a Fine Lady, but Atala is just as hunky as Lynxxx, without the pink hat :)

Under the Sea Giveaway - Winner's Book of Choice

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Hello and welcome to my blog to all new visitors and subscribers. This giveaway is strictly for books that have a water theme going on.

I will be giving away a book of the winner's choice, up to $5. This giveaway is open internationally (as long as The Book Depository delivers to your area or you can receive book gifts of Amazon Kindle). Giveaway is open until September 21st.

To enter, fill in the rafflecopter below. The winner will be announced in the rafflecopter and also receive an email within 72 hrs of the close of the giveaway. They have same amount of time to respond or another person will be selected. Goodluck!

Thursday, September 13, 2012

IK Osakioduwa's #TipsTo GettingAMan - Really?

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IK Osakioduwa is a radio show host at Rhythm 93.7 and he is married with two children. He tweeted yesterday that he was vexing on his show, trying to help ladies find guys. Well, he came up with numbered tweets with the hashtag #IksTipsToGettingAMan on Twitter. I saw some discussion around the tips on my timeline and decided to go to his profile and check out all the tips.

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Dear Myne - Should I get even on my Cheating Husband?

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I discovered a few months back that my husband slept with another lady. This was less than 2mths after our second child, and 2 months to our fourth year wedding anniversary. To say that I was deeply hurt is putting it mildly.... I wept like never before and some of my thoughts included divorce and even suicide.

25 Life Tips Young Men Need to Know

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1. It’s harder to take a punch than to throw one.

2. Find the people who make you laugh and follow them around like a golden retriever. Laughing is like a vitamin. You can never get enough of it.

3. A guy who hugs a lot is comfortable in his own skin.

4. Read poetry.

Monday, September 10, 2012

Colored Wedding Gowns and Non-Traditional Brides

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I have blogged before about unique or non traditional brides and grooms, but today, I'll be asking about colored wedding gowns. Is it a do or don't for you? My interest was piqued when I heard that Kelis used a green gown when she got married to Nas. So below, I have collected some examples that I really love, from Red, to orange, blue, pink, green, and even black.

Books to Movie Giveaway Hop

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Hello and welcome to my blog to all new visitors and subscribers. This giveaway is strictly for books that are going to be, or have already been made into movies. I’m going to give away The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger, published in 2003. The book was made into a movie in 2009, and after I fell in love with it, I went to look for the book.

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Wordless But WordFull - Inspirational Quotes for Life

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One of the Facebook pages I like, Inspirational Woman's Magazine shares these amazing quotes on their page almost daily, and I love them. Hope you find them helpful too. Have a lovely rest of the weekend, and see you soon. Mwah!

Saturday, September 8, 2012

Fine Lady - Lynxxx Ft Wizkid; Music Video Romance

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I'm not a big fan of either Lynxxx or Wizkid's music, but I loved this video. OK, let me qualify that. I like Lynxxx. Who can't help but crush on such a fine specimen of bobo nkiti? The guy is just too clean, some people will say God made him on a Sunday. Back to the Fine Lady video, LOL...though the music is so-so, the quality of the pictures and the setting made it stand out. But that's not the main reason I liked this video. Who can guess?

At the Martin Luther King Memorial, Washington DC

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Right from when the Martin Luther King Memorial was commisioned last year, I filed it away as a bucket list item, so when we planned a DC Trip, it got into our itinerary. It did take some walking to get there and a little drama with a couple of bike-rickshaws, but it was a trip worth making. Here's what the National Park Service says about the monument;

Friday, September 7, 2012

Obama still hopeful and wants four more years

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I was thinking that Obama's speech last night would unveil a new keyword or slogan, or be built on his new campaign, Forward, but he went back to his Hope and Change keywords of the 2008 campaign. I was a bit hmmm...at first, but by the end of his speech, I got it. I hope he wins come November. The guy has met a lot of the goals he set for himself during the last campaign, he has a vision for the four years he's asking for, and I like that he's such a community/grassroots person.

Unrealistic Expectations can kill Relationships by Huntly Anabs

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Early this morning, I was engaged in a conversation with a friend of mine and our discussion left me thinking about the many battles people fight on the inside that we have no knowledge of. Behind every face is a struggling human spirit. Sometimes the struggle is rooted in physical pain or disease or difficult finances. Sometimes it grows out of wounded relationships. My friend and I were discussing the kind of demands we individuals place on the people in our lives, and how unrealistic some of them are.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

To get a Samsung Galaxy S3 or the Galaxy Note?

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I have been thinking of getting a Samsung Galaxy S III for my birthday which is in October, but we were at the AT&T store recently to get a phone for my mum and I got looking at their line of Samsung phones. That was how I saw the Galaxy Note and now I think I have fallen in love.

Family Contingency Plans - Accounts and Wills

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I'll share a personal story. Some of you may know that our trip to Nigeria was mostly for my father in law's burial. My FIL was a lawyer and had had a Will. In it, he had described where and how he wanted to be buried. My MIL and his sons knew this, and this made the period of his passing as well as the plans for his funeral relatively fuss-free.

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Michelle's DNC Speech - Love Letter to Barack Obama

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I listened to Michelle Obama's speech on Live Network yesterday [she looked great as always and her pale purple nails and slim fingers were quite eye-catching] and what struck me most was how personal it was. It was a politicized love letter, and I loved that aspect of it. Around the middle of the speech she said, "...when we were first married, our combined monthly student loan bills were actually higher than our mortgage. We were so young, so in love, and so in debt."

Dear Myne - Should I Run Away or Stay?

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I´m dating a nigerian guy, but I don´t know if he is Igbo or Yoruba. The thing is, he is extremely romantic, sweet, likes to cook, clean, etc. but he gets angry for small things. He has to have the last word for everything.. including my hair color and style, the nail´s color, clothes, friends, etc..he controls everything..common! He is very religious and smart but the last thing he did was he showed me a pic of the wedding dress he wants me to wear..I´m confused cuz he is a mix of romance and control at the same time, but he respects me and pampers me too much.. SHOULD I RUN AWAY OR STAY??

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Omarosa and Michael Clarke Duncan - Love and Loss

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Michael Clarke Duncan [actor in Green Mile] passed away yesterday at the age of 54. I was shocked when I heard the news, I remembered the movies I'd seen him in and how he came across, so huge and yet so serene. May his soul rest in peace. He has certainly left a mark in his field as an actor. He also left behind his girlfriend, Omarosa, with whom he had been planning to get married. Omarosa issued a statement, saying, “I am devastated. He was the love of my life.”

Dove Intensive Repair Daily Treatment Conditioner

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I am usually leery of hair products that are not specifically marked for ethnic or African hair so I almost turned down the opportunity to review the Dove Intensive Repair Daily Treatment Conditioner. However, my dove body wash has been making my skin really happy for the past few weeks, so I decided to give the hair conditioner a try. So far, I'm glad I did.


Monday, September 3, 2012

Young Men in Nigeria also Prefer Multiple Girlfriends

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Nollwood Reinvented commented on my last post about how many boyfriends a Nigerian girl has that she "felt sorry for the men after seeing this video... that was until Battabox released a male version yesterday titled HOW MANY GIRLFRIENDS SHOULD A NIGERIAN BOY HAVE?" So I had to go look for it, and the male respondents were even more outspoken.


How Many Boyfriends Does A Nigerian Girl Have?

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I saw this video and I didn't know whether it was made in jest or it was a serious, view-on-the-street kind of documentary. To the question in my title, the majority opinion was from at least 2 or 3 to as many as possible. Before we get our knickers in a twist, remember it is possible the makers of the video had several one-boyfriend respondents and decided to feature more of those with the less conventional 2-or-more opinion. Anyway, this post is not to condemn or support the views in the video, but to muse on some of the points raised.

Sunday, September 2, 2012

Musiq Soulchild - If You Leave [feat. Mary J. Blige]

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Musiq Soulchild is a favorite for when I want to listen to soulful tunes to get to a deep place. In this collabo with Mary J Blige, they sing of break-ups and make-ups...

The Iconic White House and Washington Monument

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Is there anyone who visits Washington DC and who does not go see the White House? I knew I couldn't miss it, I even sent a notice to Obama that I was coming. Unfortunately, he had to meet with Hillary that day, the only excuse I would accept of course, lol. Seriously though, you can send a request through your local rep to get a tour of the White House, our timing was just off as the days we were in DC were not in the schedule.

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Teju Babyface Weds Tobi Banjoko - Photos

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Teju Oyelakin is popularly known as Teju Babyface because of his lasting youngish looks, and over the weekend, he got married to his fiancee, Tobi Banjoko, at the Chapel of Christ Interdenominational Church, Ikeja, Lagos. See more pictures below and read their love story on Reasons some men get married.

A Wedding Cake That Looks Just Like The Bride

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I have seen this picture before and I'm guessing some of you have as well. There is a similar one floating around but I couldn't find it as I posted. Who else wants a life-size doll of herself as a wedding cake?