Tuesday, July 31, 2012

The Little Things in Love are the Sweetest

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I saw this on a friend's page and just knew I had to share it since it seems we had been talking about cheating and marriages gone bad for the past few days. Some of us indeed, like the guy in the story below, continue to get it wrong. Enjoy reading this and do have a splendid time with that special one in your life this Friday and Forever...

My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.

A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.

I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.

“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.

I just tried to form Boss laughter…

“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled

“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.

“Sure” I smiled

We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!

So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.

“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.

“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.

“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”

I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.

“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.

“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang

Then her phone rang…

“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.

I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.

“You were late. Meet Dayo; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Dayo this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”

“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him

Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.

“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said

They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!

“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse. I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.

I collected the I.V and promised to be there.

“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.

They left and I kept staring atat the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my Ipad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her the old woman she acts.

What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.

“Temi?” My heart raced

“I know you are not coming home…”

“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.

“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose

“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”

“You sound different Dayo”

“Maybe I’m different”

“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed

She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…

Dear reader,

I wrote this natural piece just to remind us that creating memorable moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your partner, having a day in the week that’s exclusively for you both-No friends or kids allowed.

Lady, when last have you told your partner he is so darn hot? Guy! When last have you told your lady she is the sweetest thing? When last have whispered ‘Thank you’? When last have you been quick to say ‘I’m sorry’?

Do you even have a clue on what your partner loves to do?

When you ignore little things, they are the little pieces of rocks that build up to become a mountain you can’t easily break down.

Pay attention to little things, believe that they work and experience new bliss!

Yours Truly, Lowla Dee.
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I just had to share this with u guys.....wish u luck!






18 comments:

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  2. Wow.... that was a beautiful piece! Great advice too!

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  3. Oh wow! That is serious food for thought. I like the part where he said he had created the person his wife had turned out to be. True words! I get a bit annoyed with my Dad because he doesnttake my Mum out, I think it is very important!

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  5. I read this last week and I was blown away by the fact that he has been out every single friday night since he got married without her, that's the mistake a lot of people make, they think that once they are married the romance automaatically stops and expect the wife to switch gears from bee a fun loving person to a full ad proper house wife. forgetting that when ur dating, u did a lot of fun things together etc, so that should continue inside the marriage....u r welcome to visit http://houseofemeralds.blogspot.com/

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  6. this was actually first posted on Linda Ikeji's blog it was a reply to a "Dear LIB" story she had previously posted about a husband who always hang out on friday nights

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  7. ohhhhhhh.....this is so sweet!

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  8. Third time I'm reading this this week (somebody ask me why I'm reading it 3 times? Me I dunno) but I just love it. So so true... reminds me of this Efya song that I love... "Little Things"

    Cos it really "the little things that you do, that make me love you" - Efya

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  9. Wow. Wish my man wld spend more time wit me. Couple of mnths pregnant n he hardly spends time wit me. Lucilla

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  10. Hmmmm..so so true

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    1. Though ve seen this elsewhere I can't help reading it again, its really touching. Nice one.
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  12. I have seen this somewhere else this week.. but I love the story, it just explains the genesis of cheating in marriages..

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  13. this piece ie quite heartening. You know, this is what we forget cos we get carried a way with life, I was speaking with a guy the other day and he mentioned how he would love to get married to a lady and still continue to do some of the things that they do while still single.
    wish a lot of us could incorporate this in our lives

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  14. I LOVED this story. Real food for thought.

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  15. Vivian . Kik'sJuly 18, 2013 5:16 AM

    this story is wonderful,its heart touching,women are not to be treated like a piece of paper thrown into the bin,if only you can discover our inner beauty and how lovely we are.treat us like a queen...husbands should stop treating there wifes like an old cargo,lets feel among.

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