Friday, January 21, 2011

A Note From Atala - The Significant Other BlogFest

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Thanks to DL Hammons at Cruising Altitude

We’ve all heard the saying…behind every successful man or woman…there’s a person who supports them unconditionally. Nowhere is that more true than with us writers. Who else would put up with our 2 AM wake up calls to solicit opinions of a shiny new idea? Our whiplash inducing confidence swings? The hours upon hours in front of the computer monitor, with nary a grunt or nod when they attempt to disrupt our creative flow? The compulsive need to check email on our Smartphone’s for that reply we’ve been waiting so anxiously for? Or reading the fifty-seventh revision of our first chapter?

It takes a special person to put up with writers idiosyncrasies…and we believe its time they had their say! Although our first choice would be to have your significant other post their own material, it is acceptable to interview them and post those responses. The only catch is that you must [start with] these three questions.

1. What food or drink is guaranteed to return your loved one to a good mood, even after a bad day writing?
2. What one thing would you change about your others writing habits?
3. How hard is it to sit by and watch someone you care for struggle to attain a dream...knowing there's very little you can do to help?


Hear it from my one and ONLY! :) I love you too darling...

1 - My SO's moods aren't really driven by food or drink - usually, it's enough for her to step away from writing for a while to regain her good humour. However, a good dollop of ice cream (especially if it's coffee-flavoured) wouldn't go amiss in helping the restoration of that good humour.

2 - I'd like her to accept that there comes a time in a story's life when it is good enough, and further edits (especially ones which could accidentally introduce typos) are really just gilding the lily. I do understand that perspective keeps on changing, and what seemed great a few months back may not be so good now - but writers should also remember that they don't just write for themsleves, but also for others (e.g. impatient editors, expectant readers, etc.)

3 - I'm actually very active in supporting my SO's aspirations, so I'm not sure how to answer this question. However, if I was in this position, I'd try to be creative in figuring out ways I could help, even though the help might not be directly related to her dreams. I might also play the role of the 'mirror' - getting her to evaluate where she was in her struggle, so that she might consider other options.

4 - In any event, I find it very easy to be supportive of my wife, because it's clear to me that she gets a great deal of enjoyment and fulfilment from her writing. So loving her as I do, I want to do as much as I can to in helping her making the experience as fulfilling for her as it possibly can be.

5 - And it also helps that like her, I'm an avid reader, and so I'm very keen to know what she's written, and I can cast a critical eye with suggestions and comments. Sometimes, it can be a bit of a pain, especially when she feels that her work is not yet ready for viewing - there are times I've contemplated sneaking out of bed to steal a sneak preview!
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40 comments:

  1. aw bless... you are a sweet sweet man Atala and our (yes she kinda belongs to us in bloggyland) little Myne is a very lucky woman

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  2. Atala God bless you for being a supportive and loving spouse! I know Myne appreciates and loves you even more.
    LOL @ sneaking out of bed to steal a sneak preview.

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  3. awwww! you guys are soo inspiring!
    Hey Myne maybe we could get a story based loosely on you guys soon huh? lol ;)

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  4. Aaawww!!

    A happy wife is a happy life ;)God bless you both :D

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  5. Oh Dear..
    *actually shedding a tear*
    Totally sweet..

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  6. Awwww, so sweet, more so now that I can put a face to those words. ;)
    You're an inspiring couple.
    God bless you!

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  7. Awww, the joy of a partners support...(smile)

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  8. Awww....how cute! Go Myne and Atala!!!

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  9. A happy wife is a happy life:)

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  10. Wow. Your husband sounds so supportive. Lucky duck! Mine is supportive, but I certainly envy being able to share it all together like you. Lovely post!

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  11. Aw, how lovely and supportive. That's wonderful! Thank you so much for taking part!

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  12. Sound like you have a great man supporting you! Thanks for sharing!

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  13. Your husband sounds so wonderful and supportive. And it's great to meet another fan of coffee-flavored ice cream!

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  14. Your husband sounds so supportive! Anyone who supplies coffee ice cream is a winner.

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  15. Coffee flavored ice cream! That would work for me. And that's great he read a lot - so does my husband.

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  16. Aww, Atala, you're very sweet and supportive and she's lucky to have you!

    This was a great post, thank you both for doing it!

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  17. Well, sneaking out of bed for a peek at her work isn't as bad as peering over her shoulder or grabbing her place at the computer when she gets up to answer the phone or use the loo! Good for you to play the mirror. Sometimes it can backfire and start an argument. You're a brave one with a good heart and excellent heat resistance.

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  18. Awww, that is really sweet and good for him! I wonder what my husband will write. I guess we shall see.
    Thank you for visiting my blog and the kind comments you left. I hope you come back and visit again! I am intrigued by yours and plan to follow.

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  19. You sound like the sweetest thing ever. Thank you so much for a wonderful post. It sounds as though you two make a perfect couple.

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  20. You are great Atala, putting up with everything; good and bad. :)
    Blessings on you both

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  21. lovely supportive husband..i like...
    loll trying to sneak

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  22. Bless him. Such an inspiring post and fab hubby. Thanks for sharing!

    My significant other

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  23. awesome. That is the coolest thing--to have a S.O. who reads and gives suggestions as well as supports and loves~ :o) <3

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  24. Awwww,see me smiling here o!
    The good part really is that your SO loves to read too,Myne.

    How have you been?

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  25. My wife is an avid reader as well and I know how useful it is to have a critical eye on retainer. :) You are awesome, doing this for her today. Thank you for taking part in the fun. :)

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  26. What a nice guy. I'm now craving coffee ice cream. You're lucky that he's an avid reader. My husband doesn't like to read and so I don't use him as a test reader.

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  27. Nice to meet you both!! Your SO sounds very loving and supporting. OMG coffee flavored icecream will do it everytime. See ya around

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  28. First let me say, thank you for the reminder about the blogfest today. If it weren't for you stopping by it would have slipped my mind completely. My hubby was pretty great about sitting down and typing on a moments notice.

    It's nice to *meet* the both of you. I had to laugh when I read the part about sneaking a peek. I keep my work on lock down because I'm afraid my SO will want to do the same.

    It is wonderful to live with someone who is so supportive of us writers. So thank you for supporting Myne to do what she clearly does so well so that she can entertain us all.

    I'm long winded; sorry. ;)

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  29. Myne, thanks for stopping by my blog this week. It's always nice to meet another writerly blogger. Have a wonderful weekend. :)

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  30. What a wonderful and supportive SO! And very wise and thoughtful, too. That's funny that you contemplate sneaking out of bed to read her work - good luck!

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  31. Your SO sounds so loving and supportive. Lucky lady! I giggled at the bit about sneaking out of bed.

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  32. Hi all,

    Thanks for the kind comments!

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  33. How supportive! Loving this blogfest...it's just taking me forever to get through all the posts!

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  34. Awww.. he's such a treasure!! Myne, you are blessed..and thanks for stopping by mine.

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  35. Now that's a supportive spouse. He obviously views you as a strong and capable woman.
    Looking forward to your Top Ten songs tomorrow!

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  36. Now that's a supportive spouse. He obviously views you as a strong and capable woman.
    Looking forward to your Top Ten songs tomorrow!

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  37. Thanks Vicki, BNW, Alex and Nicole!

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